A surprising question does not require a perfect speech. Use these points to think about an honest first response and making room to talk again.
Be honest when you do not know
You can thank a teen for asking, acknowledge uncertainty, and look for reliable information together. Inventing an answer can close down a useful conversation.
THE POINT TO REMEMBER
Honesty can leave room for future conversations.
Make several opportunities to talk
An ongoing series of calm conversations leaves room for new questions. The aim is continued communication rather than a single perfect talk.
THE POINT TO REMEMBER
Repeated conversations can keep communication open.
Read it. Try it. Come back to why.
Read one point at a time, then use the linked scenario to check your understanding. The practice is a chance to return to the explanation and reflect, rather than a measure of parenting ability.
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