A useful instruction describes something a child can do. Explore the difference between a vague complaint and a small choice that fits the child’s abilities.
Offer two concrete options
Two suitable clothing choices give a child something clear to act on. Broad requests about being good do not describe the action you want.
THE POINT TO REMEMBER
Two concrete options are easier to act on than a vague request.
Match a direction to the child’s abilities
Before asking for an action, consider whether the child can manage it and what help is needed. Difficulty completing a task can call for support.
THE POINT TO REMEMBER
Directions should fit the child’s abilities.
Read it. Try it. Come back to why.
Read one point at a time, then use the linked scenario to check your understanding. The practice is a chance to return to the explanation and reflect, rather than a measure of parenting ability.
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